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Free Love Advice: Online Dating Sucks

Free Love Advice: Online Dating Sucks

September 10, 2019

Online dating can suck. Especially when you're using it to get an ego boost, or because you're bored. And especially when the folks on the other end of the screen are doing the exact same thing. 

No wonder it's hard to connect with people in a meaningful way.

So if looking for the lover of your life online is depressing, what else can you do? What did folks do before dating apps? 

Let's explore just that. 

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How can we stay present when we're waiting for the other shoe to drop?

What about when we're terrified of losing the partner we love so much? 

How can we feel gratitude for the present moment and live in the here and now? 

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Free Love Advice: Staying Present in Your Relationship

Free Love Advice: Staying Present in Your Relationship

September 3, 2019

How can we stay present when we're waiting for the other shoe to drop?

What about when we're terrified of losing the partner we love so much? 

How can we feel gratitude for the present moment and live in the here and now? 

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Real Love Stories: Dating with Terminal Cancer

Real Love Stories: Dating with Terminal Cancer

August 27, 2019

How do you tell the new person you're dating that you're going to die much sooner than you'd planned? What are the effects of long-term cancer treatment on your sex life? How can one remain grateful and enjoy living life knowing that you might only have a few years left to live? 

That's what we're exploring today on The Love Drive. 

Resources and Links

There Is No Good Card for This book by Dr. Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell: https://amzn.to/325AbD2

 

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How to Receive Love with Janne Robinson

How to Receive Love with Janne Robinson

August 20, 2019

It can be incredibly vulnerable to receive, especially if you've been a giver or an over-giver your whole life. To receive means believing yourself to be worthy of attention, respect, care, compassion, and love. Intellectually you might believe this, but do you feel it in your body?

Janne Robinson is an author, poet, friend, and a woman of distinction and we talk about the power of receiving. We dive into what blocks us from receiving the gifts this world and it's people have to offer us. To give and to receive means being available to ourselves which is some of the most challenging work we'll have to do in this lifetime.

 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The power of receiving as an act of giving

• The importance of compassion and empathy when it comes to seeing people for who they are and not their actions

• How to receive love, vulnerability, and openness

 

Where to find Janne:

Website https://www.jannerobinson.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jannerobinson/

 

Resources and Links

This Is For The Women Who Don't Give a Fuck book https://amzn.to/2KGpNfk

I am a Woman of Distinction poem https://www.jannerobinson.com/pages/i-am-a-woman-of-distinction

Rea-Ann Wood-Schatz from Integrity Seminars https://integrityseminars.com

Gay Hendricks and The Big Leap https://hendricks.com/

The Big Leap book https://amzn.to/2z4Vcl0

Brenda St Louise is a Certified Money Coach https://www.brendastlouis.com/

Meet Prem, the healer from Crete https://www.facebook.com/healthyself.prem/

Attached, the book on Attachment Theory by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller https://amzn.to/2HeT5iP

 

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Cultivating Your Pleasure with Euphemia Russell

Cultivating Your Pleasure with Euphemia Russell

August 12, 2019

Pleasure is fundamental to happiness, productivity, and health. And in this hyper-productive world, we're likely to put pleasure on the back burner as we strive to get more shit done.

Euphemia Russell is a pleasure educator, and they believe that it's best to do less, better. I agree. Let's focus more on cultivating pleasure within ourselves (and with others) and less on being productive (and oh so busy!)

They've dedicated their life to resourcing people with practical pleasure and embodiment tools through coaching, writing, and facilitation. And they were a delight to connect with on the topics of pleasure, passion, and the power of slow sex.

 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The role of the central nervous system in pleasure activation

• How to release stress in the body using simple daily pleasure practices

• The power of slow sex and the importance of pleasure mapping

 

Where to find Euphemia:

I Wish You Knew Website https://www.iwishyouknew.net/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sex.iwishyouknew

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sex.iwishyouknew/

 

Resources and Links

The Power of Slow Sex Online Workshop https://www.iwishyouknew.net/thepowerofslowsex

Dan Savage's Hump Film Fest https://humpfilmfest.com/

Trauma Resources Blog Post https://www.iwishyouknew.net/traumaresources

Spoon Theory Explained https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory

Make Love Not Porn (not discussed in the podcast but an excellent resource for real sex videos) https://www.makelovenotporn.com/

Euphemia's Newsletter https://www.iwishyouknew.net/contact

The Love Drive's Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Emotional Availability Post https://www.instagram.com/p/BzypVxthIXx

 

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The Power of Male Vulnerability with Jayson Gaddis

The Power of Male Vulnerability with Jayson Gaddis

August 6, 2019

It's nearly impossible to have deeply connected relationships without vulnerability. And unfortunately, we weren't taught how to be vulnerable in school, or why it's important to stay open in your partnership. And, it's even harder for men to be vulnerable because the messaging has taught us that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness, when in fact, it's a relationship strength. 

Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, and the host of The Smart Couple Podcast, and is actively doing the work to help folks have healthier and more connected relationships. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The importance of vulnerability and courage in your relationship

• What it means to be emotionally available and how to move towards it

• How relationships will highlight your areas of development and your zones of discomfort

Where to find Jayson Gaddis:

The Relationship School https://relationshipschool.com/

The Smart Couple Podcast https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/

Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/therelationshipschool

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipschool/

Resources and Links

Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Guise https://thelovedrive.com/raising-boys-to-be-better-men-with-rachel-giese/

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How To Make Friends 101 with Jillian Richardson

How To Make Friends 101 with Jillian Richardson

July 30, 2019

Loneliness is a systemic issue, and a huge problem in the United States (and probably around the world). It's hard making friends as an adult, and lots of folks are unsatisfied with their adult friendships. So what are we to do?

Jillian Richardson is the creator of The Joy List NYC and the author of Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change The World and today we're talking about how to make friends as an adult living in a society that it isn't set up for connection and community. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How connection is the best way to heal trauma

• Skills required to crate connection and make new friends

• The importance of creating the spaces you want to see in the world

Where to find Jillian Richardson:

Website https://www.thatjillian.com/

Subscribe to The Joy List https://joylist.nyc/

The Book Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change The World

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/joylistnyc

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thatjillian/

Resources and Links

Adult Children of Alcoholics https://adultchildren.org/

Woman Within https://womanwithin.org/

The Drama of The Gifted Child by Alice Miller https://amzn.to/2K2Paru

Take the ACE (Average Childhood Experiences) and Resilience Test https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/

Medi Club http://www.thebigquiet.com/medi-club

ISTA https://www.schooloftemplearts.org/

Santropol Roulant https://santropolroulant.org/en/

Friendtimacy by Shasta Nelson https://amzn.to/2YubgLr

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The Love Drive on The How To Human Podcast

The Love Drive on The How To Human Podcast

July 23, 2019

If you aren't listening to the How To Human Podcast with Sam Lamott, here's your chance. I'm airing the episode we recorded together in November of 2018. Sam interviewed me about my creative process, the origin story of The Love Drive, and how I came to do the work I do today. 

We also get real and raw, because that's how Sam is, about our sexual shame, the importance of reducing that shame and how to love when we haven't been shown how. Don't miss this episode; Sam is a skilled interviewer, a phenomenal podcast producer/editor, and a brilliant human. 

Where to find Sam Lamott and the How To Human Podcast:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hellohumans.co/

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/HelloHumans_co

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Love and Depression with Joëlle Pouliot

Love and Depression with Joëlle Pouliot

July 16, 2019

Today we're talking about love and depression. How can we love when we're struggling with a mental health issue? How can we support those we love when they're fighting depression?

Joelle Pouliot is a journalist, works for a mental health organization in Montreal, and has struggled with the effects of depression on her ability to love. 

Warning: This episode is not a substitute for therapy, psychotherapy, or a doctor's visit. Neither of us is trained in psychiatry. This is a conversation between a love coach and someone who has struggled with depression and mental health and should not be used to diagnose or treat any mental health disorders. 

For immediate assistance, please call 911. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• Self-care for the person struggling with depression

• How to love someone with a mental health issue

• The importance of acknowledging your feelings of depression, and when to say 'enough'

Where to find Joëlle Pouliot:

Website https://joellepouliot.com/

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Free Love Advice: You Can’t Meet My Needs

Free Love Advice: You Can’t Meet My Needs

July 9, 2019

Asking for your needs to me bet can be scary because the risk is that your partner will say no. And sometimes, it's easier to stay in a relationship that sort of meets your needs than to risk not being in one at all because asking for exactly what you want leads to the end of the relationships. And that's the risk. But the payoff is that you might just get everything you ask for if you can come up with the courage to ask for it.

This episode is a follow-up episode to last weeks conversation about how challenging early-stage dating can be. 

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