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Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Giese

Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Giese

June 25, 2019

Whether we're telling boys to "man up" or warned that "crying is for girls" young men are subjected to damaging messages about manliness: they must muzzle their emotions and never show weakness, dominate girls, and compete with one another. And yet we wonder why many men are emotionally unavailable. 

Rachel Giese is a journalist and author of Boys: What It Means To Become A Man. Her new book examines the myths of masculinity and the challenges facing boys today and how we might consider doing it differently. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The effects of toxic masculinity on boyhood development

• The dangers of raising boys in the 'man box'

• How we can expand our current definition of courage and strength to include vulnerability, authenticity, and transparency when it comes to emotions. 

Where to find Rachel Giese:

Website http://www.rachel-giese.com/

Twitter https://twitter.com/rachelagiese

Mentioned on the podcast:

Rachel's book, Boys https://amzn.to/2Xx2VpQ

WizeGuys https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/programs-workshops/wiseguyz/

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Understanding Female Infidelity & Desire with Dr. Wednesday Martin

Understanding Female Infidelity & Desire with Dr. Wednesday Martin

June 18, 2019

The data is wrong. Forever we've been told that men are more sexually promiscuous and have a need to 'sow their oats' while women are more fulfilled in long-term monogamous relationships because they value love, stability, and emotional connection more than men. Wrong. The data suggests that women are more sexually adventurous, promiscuous, and cheat more than men but because that goes against the popular narrative, we've been dismissing it. 

Dr. Wednesday Martin is an author, cultural critic, feminist, and her new book is all about female sexuality and female infidelity and it's called Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free. We debunk some pretty big myths and explore why we've been thinking about women's sexuality all wrong. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• Why women struggle more maintaining sexual desire in long-term monogamous relationships than men

• What to do when you no longer feel desirous of sex with your male partner

• How come women are more sexually adventurous and cheat more than we think they do

Where to find Dr. Wednesday Martin:

Website http://wednesdaymartin.com/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/wednesdaymartinphd/

Mentioned on the podcast:

Wednesday's book, Untrue https://amzn.to/2RizMsX

Christopher Ryan and Cecilda Jetha's book, Sex at Dawn https://amzn.to/2KXissf

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The Over-Sexualization of Women with Lili Boisvert

The Over-Sexualization of Women with Lili Boisvert

June 11, 2019

From clothing to flirting, from our fascination with youth and innocence to the orgasm gap, every aspect of women's lives is dictated by their status as sex objects, and it's a problem. 

Journalist, columnist, actress, and now author Lili Boisvert wrote a book on how women are set up to fail at sex, the problem with over-sexualizing women and under-sexualizing men, and how we can start to reverse this dangerous dynamic.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The dangers of women having a passive role in courtship, sex, and life

• Why the patriarchy insists that we do not sexualize men like we do women

• How we can begin to change the dynamics at play for more bedroom and worldwide equality

Where to find Lili Boisvert:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lili.boisvert

Facebook page for Les Brutes https://www.facebook.com/lesbrutestelequebec

Mentioned on the podcast:

Lili's book, Screwed: How Women Are Set Up to Fail at Sex https://amzn.to/2F2ggfj

Dr. Ian Kener's book, She Comes First https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D

The movie, The Graduate https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061722/

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Polyamory Beyond Jealousy with Marie-Claude L’Archer

Polyamory Beyond Jealousy with Marie-Claude L’Archer

June 4, 2019

Jealousy can be one of the most frustrating emotions that you'll face in your relationship. It can drive you to insanity. But what if you'd found a way to turn that jealousy upside down; what if you could derive pleasure out of situations that used to drive you mad? 

Blogger, researcher, and author Marie-Claude L'Archer wrote the book on compersion, a relatively new term in the polyamorous community that means just that. Compersion is the act of deriving pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person. And guess what? It's not just for polyamorous folks. You can start accessing this emotion in your monogamous couple today, and we'll show you how. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How to derive pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person

• How getting your needs met will make everything better for everyone

• Dealing with insecurity in your relationship

• Ways to get your needs met through various avenues lead to happier relationships

Where to find Marie Claude L'Archer:

Website https://hypatiafromspace.com/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/blogpolyamour/

Mentioned on the podcast:

Marie Claude's book, Compersion: Polyamory Without Jealousy https://amzn.to/2KqAD9E

Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D

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Storytime: My First Sex Party (Her Side)

Storytime: My First Sex Party (Her Side)

May 28, 2019

Remember the story of my first sex party? There were two main characters in that story; the woman with the red fishnet dress, and the one with curly hair in the black dress.

I thought it might be fun to interview the woman in the little black dress and get her side of the story. From meeting up in line at the bathroom, to the awkwardness around introducing me to her fiancé, she shares what was going through her mind that night.

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A Buddhist Perspective on Love with Susan Piver

A Buddhist Perspective on Love with Susan Piver

May 21, 2019

Relationships are hard, messy, and confusing, and they will never stabilize. Bummer, but there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Susan Piver is a meditation instructor, best-selling author and she shows us how to meet that instability with your partner and how to turn it into love. 

Susan took The Four Noble Truth, a Buddhist concept, and applied them to love and relationships. She's here to share how it made a large impact on her relationship and how you can start using these tools right away. 

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The importance of cultivating inner kindness towards yourself and your partner

• What to do when you realize that your relationship will never stabilize 

• How to create a safe and welcoming container for your partner

• The Enneagram and how to use it to understand how your partner communicates

Where to find Susan Piver:

Website https://susanpiver.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/susan.piver/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/piversusan/

Mentioned on the podcast:

Susan Piver's book, The Four Noble Truths of Love https://amzn.to/2YGiGHE

Sam Harris' book, Lying https://amzn.to/2VOKgWw

Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D

The Wisdom of the Enneagram https://amzn.to/2YCKLjh

The Open Heart Project https://susanpiver.com/open-heart-project/

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Storytime: My First Sex Party

Storytime: My First Sex Party

May 14, 2019

Welcome to Storytime, a new segment from The Love Drive. Today, the story of both my first and second sex parties: how terrified I was at both, why you should check your lube to make sure it's not hand sanitizer, and the importance of friends who can support you through new experiences. Enjoy; I sure did. 

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Free Love Advice: I Want to Get Married

Free Love Advice: I Want to Get Married

May 7, 2019

Julia is in love with a much older man. They met when she was in her early twenties and they never expected it to last this long. Julia has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl, and she's highly motivated to because of how successful her parent's marriage was. The only issue is, her partner refuses to get married. How can they navigate something that is a deal breaker for each other, while also desperately wanting to stay together?

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Free Love Advice: Part 2 of Making Space

Free Love Advice: Part 2 of Making Space

May 7, 2019

This is part 2 of Making Space For Someone New. If you didn't listen to last weeks episode, I recommend you do to get the full story. On today's episode, Samantha and I discuss ways for her to meet new people, to expand her dating pool, and what would happen if she posted pictures of herself with her wheelchair on dating sites. And then, I check back in with Samantha, some three months later to get up to speed on her love life.

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Free Love Advice: Make Space for Someone New

Free Love Advice: Make Space for Someone New

April 30, 2019

Samantha is in love with a man who in many ways meets her needs. But in a few very fundamental ways, he does not. Samantha struggles with meeting new people, made more challenging by the fact that she has a visible disability. Her needing to use a wheelchair makes it harder for her to meet new people. Does she stay with a person who partially meets her needs, or jumps into the dating scene knowing that it's harder with folks with disabilities?

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